It is supposed to be a happy, jolly and merry time of year. People smiling, giving, and singing. The season of peace and goodwill. Nights full of bright and sparkling lights. But for some, it is a terrible time of year marked by sadness, longing and missing. A season of anguish and frustration. Nights filled with heartache and darkness.
If you have had a loved one die, especially in the last few months or years, the holidays can be especially difficult. There can be a strong sense of disconnect and isolation from the ever seemingly bright world around us. Holiday songs and good cheer only bring tears and intolerance. Sparkling colored lights are to be avoided. The pressure to attend social gatherings and celebrations feels overwhelming.
What can you do for yourself if grief has stolen your holidays away? Here are a few strategies that may help:
Remember even The Grinch had love in his heart; love too is at the root of grief. Whatever you do to cope with the holiday season; trust that you are surviving. With every breath you are making it through. Sometimes that is the best we can do. As always, be kind to yourself along the way.
This Post Written By:
Caryn Kondo – MSW – Therapy With Heart
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