The “most wonderful time of the year” is full of so many expectations—those we place on ourselves, and those placed on us by others. We eagerly anticipate the break from work and the delights that await us, but—as I’m sure we can almost all attest to—it doesn’t take much during the holidays for our mental health to tank, quickly. So,...
Read MoreI’m a huge fan of the show Ted Lasso and in this latest season Ted recognizes that he needs the support and guidance of the psychologist Dr. Sharon Fieldstone. In this short clip, he shows the vulnerability of feeling the need for help and the fear of “going there” at the same time and within minutes, leaves the room. https://etcanada.com/news/815653/ted-lasso-has-second-thoughts-about-facing-his-mental-demons-in-new-sneak-peek/...
Read MoreIf you struggle with anxiety you know how debilitating, how scary, and how lonely it can be. If you have family or friends that struggle with anxiety, you know how hard it is at times to reassure, to try to help them see "logic", and often how helpless you can feel as you watch your loved ones struggle. I fit...
Read MorePart III—The Heroism of Love Click here to read Parts I and II. Think of all the foolish things you may have done in a romantic relationship—the words that came out of your mouth during a fight; the thoughts that entered your mind in the aftermath of an argument; the promises you made to yourself to avoid getting hurt; or...
Read MorePart II—The Messiness of Love No matter how hard we work, giving and receiving love doesn’t necessarily equate feeling love. In my work as an EFT therapist, I see many different types of clients. Though virtually all of them come in with good intentions and even good insight, they get stuck resolving conflict, maintaining connection, and feeling heard and seen. ...
Read MorePart I—Multidimensional Love I love oatmilk lattes. I love baseball. I love my family. I love you. Do we really mean the same thing when we speak of our love for America’s favorite pastime, our family, or our partner? In the English language, we have one word to cover all the bases (pun intended) of love. But this hasn’t always been...
Read MoreWhat it is and isn't and how EMDR can help Many of my clients believe that trauma has to be a catastrophic event in their life. Some examples of this would be: a horrific car accident, severe abuse, sexual assault, or the experiences of a combat veteran. However, what we have learned about trauma is that those events would be...
Read MoreOn my birthday, I reflect on my life so far. I remembered my first life choice point with my husband when we were in our late 20s, early 30’s. I was very driven and ambitious. We had done everything we needed to do in our minds to be “ready” to have children. As the time ticked by without a positive...
Read MoreI can’t think of one person who likes being asked that question. There’s something inherently off putting about being asked—“how does that make you feel?”—articulated with a tone spoken to with young children. One of my clients requested of me during our first session together never to ask him that question—and I could relate. As a therapist who specializes in...
Read MoreI think we all know that being in a relationship is hard at times. We also know that the rewards, of comfort, love, passion and security (just to name a few) is so worth it. I remember my parents, who have been married now for over 50 years telling me that you “just have to keep talking” when you get...
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