Part III—The Heroism of Love Click here to read Parts I and II. Think of all the foolish things you may have done in a romantic relationship—the words that came out of your mouth during a fight; the thoughts that entered your mind in the aftermath of an argument; the promises you made to yourself to avoid getting hurt; or...
Read MorePart II—The Messiness of Love No matter how hard we work, giving and receiving love doesn’t necessarily equate feeling love. In my work as an EFT therapist, I see many different types of clients. Though virtually all of them come in with good intentions and even good insight, they get stuck resolving conflict, maintaining connection, and feeling heard and seen. ...
Read MorePart I—Multidimensional Love I love oatmilk lattes. I love baseball. I love my family. I love you. Do we really mean the same thing when we speak of our love for America’s favorite pastime, our family, or our partner? In the English language, we have one word to cover all the bases (pun intended) of love. But this hasn’t always been...
Read MoreWhat it is and isn't and how EMDR can help Many of my clients believe that trauma has to be a catastrophic event in their life. Some examples of this would be: a horrific car accident, severe abuse, sexual assault, or the experiences of a combat veteran. However, what we have learned about trauma is that those events would be...
Read MoreOn my birthday, I reflect on my life so far. I remembered my first life choice point with my husband when we were in our late 20s, early 30’s. I was very driven and ambitious. We had done everything we needed to do in our minds to be “ready” to have children. As the time ticked by without a positive...
Read MoreI can’t think of one person who likes being asked that question. There’s something inherently off putting about being asked—“how does that make you feel?”—articulated with a tone spoken to with young children. One of my clients requested of me during our first session together never to ask him that question—and I could relate. As a therapist who specializes in...
Read MoreI think we all know that being in a relationship is hard at times. We also know that the rewards, of comfort, love, passion and security (just to name a few) is so worth it. I remember my parents, who have been married now for over 50 years telling me that you “just have to keep talking” when you get...
Read MoreOur Therapy With Heart team had the opportunity to learn from Sex Therapist, Jennifer Lucas Brown in October and it just inspired me to continue to open up the dialogue around what, for many, is an uncomfortable topic to discuss. Sex and intimacy is such an important part of our relationships. Research shows that although sex is important, intimate touch such...
Read MoreOctober marks LGBT history month. Unlike Pride month, which celebrates the LGBTQ+ community, LGBT history month is a celebration that honors the contributions made by LGBT in the in the civil rights movement and to recognize contributions made by the LGBT community, industry, politics, the arts, and more. As we celebrate contributions made by these individuals, we also recognize landmark...
Read MoreIn celebration of my wedding anniversary, I wanted to share my thoughts about some of the things that contribute to a great marriage. I will list my 10 pieces of advice as I sit here reflecting on the things I’ve learned in my own marriage. For each of these items, there is an underlying theme: to have a great marriage,...
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