Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) was created by Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg in the 1980s and is one of the most empirically validated therapy approaches for couples and relationships. Rooted in attachment theory and science and shown effective by numerous scientific studies, EFT helps couples move from distress to recovery and increase connection and security in their relationship. In the...
Read MoreIt had been over a year since I last saw them. Former clients with sex addictions. I looked at their faces- both very familiar and the same, yet undeniably different. “You both seem to have a… well… a lightness to you.” I motioned to their faces, struggling to find words to adequately describe the difference I was seeing- sensing. They...
Read MoreIs this your first time seeking therapy? Have you been to a therapist before and felt you did not get the support or help you were looking for? Are you currently in therapy, but question if it is even effective? If you find yourself in any of these situations, you are not alone and I want to help! Far too...
Read MoreAnger is generally understood as an emotion to an experience of injustice. When we believe that something “wrong” has happened to us, we feel deeply what is often depicted as fiery or hot. If we pause, we can even notice it somewhere in our body. Maybe it takes the form of a pounding heart, or warmth in our neck or...
Read MoreChorus from A Star Is Born (Lady Gaga / Bradley Cooper) I'm off the deep end, watch as I dive in I'll never meet the ground Crash through the surface, where they can't hurt us We're far from the shallow now From the first moment I watched A Star is Born to listening to the soundtrack countless times, I was...
Read More“The power of vulnerability.” I talk about it. I see it. I feel it. I know that being vulnerable is essential for me to fully connect with people. Even still, it often feels unnatural for me to be voluntarily vulnerable. It takes a great deal of courage to share important experiences and raw feelings. My husband and I have been...
Read MoreIt is supposed to be a happy, jolly and merry time of year. People smiling, giving, and singing. The season of peace and goodwill. Nights full of bright and sparkling lights. But for some, it is a terrible time of year marked by sadness, longing and missing. A season of anguish and frustration. Nights filled with heartache and darkness. If...
Read MoreWhat does 'being strong' mean? Is it the ability to hold up heavy objects or the fortitude to just hold up under pressure? Whatever your definition, we need to rethink strength. When we see someone struggling we immediately assume weakness; tears equating to lack of fortitude. The assumption that 'falling apart' and expressing deep raw emotions, is somehow a sign...
Read MoreI’m on vacation with my kids and friends on the central coast of California. I have rarely looked at my phone, checked my email or worried about chores or work to do. In fact, we have chosen to have almost no particular schedule at all and that freedom and flexibility has felt amazing. When we want to eat, we eat....
Read MoreMy daughter Grace lost “Blankie.” It was my blanket that I had as a little girl that I saved and gave to her when she was born. The one she has to take on every trip and sleep with every night tucked under its silky ivory, low on fluff with tattered edges from all its use and wear. She left...
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