What it is and isn't and how EMDR can help Many of my clients believe that trauma has to be a catastrophic event in their life. Some examples of this would be: a horrific car accident, severe abuse, sexual assault, or the experiences of a combat veteran. However, what we have learned about trauma is that those events would be...
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On my birthday, I reflect on my life so far. I remembered my first life choice point with my husband when we were in our late 20s, early 30’s. I was very driven and ambitious. We had done everything we needed to do in our minds to be “ready” to have children. As the time ticked by without a positive...
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I can’t think of one person who likes being asked that question. There’s something inherently off putting about being asked—“how does that make you feel?”—articulated with a tone spoken to with young children. One of my clients requested of me during our first session together never to ask him that question—and I could relate. As a therapist who specializes in...
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I think we all know that being in a relationship is hard at times. We also know that the rewards, of comfort, love, passion and security (just to name a few) is so worth it. I remember my parents, who have been married now for over 50 years telling me that you “just have to keep talking” when you get...
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Our Therapy With Heart team had the opportunity to learn from Sex Therapist, Jennifer Lucas Brown in October and it just inspired me to continue to open up the dialogue around what, for many, is an uncomfortable topic to discuss. Sex and intimacy is such an important part of our relationships. Research shows that although sex is important, intimate touch such...
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October marks LGBT history month. Unlike Pride month, which celebrates the LGBTQ+ community, LGBT history month is a celebration that honors the contributions made by LGBT in the in the civil rights movement and to recognize contributions made by the LGBT community, industry, politics, the arts, and more. As we celebrate contributions made by these individuals, we also recognize landmark...
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In celebration of my wedding anniversary, I wanted to share my thoughts about some of the things that contribute to a great marriage. I will list my 10 pieces of advice as I sit here reflecting on the things I’ve learned in my own marriage. For each of these items, there is an underlying theme: to have a great marriage,...
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Fear….This is a scary word that most of us do not like to talk about. Unfortunately, it is a feeling most of us are familiar with because we are all faced with uncertain situations. For me, I feel it every day. My son was born with a rare chromosome abnormality that creates complications related to eating, breathing, hearing, and talking....
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Self Compassion is something I have worked on within myself and with my clients for many years now. This is not an easy area for me as I have been challenging and critical of myself for many years. I was running the other day to get some fresh air and clear my mind on an especially stressful day. Demi Lovato's...
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In a time when social-distancing and avoiding others at all costs has become mandatory, how do we stay connected? Stay human? It seems that everywhere I look I see some reminder of the dreaded COVID-19 virus; not that working from home isn’t a constant reminder itself. There is nearly 24/7 coverage on the news stations, and what I miss from...
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