“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.”
When a loved one dies, there seems to be a strange effect on time and energy. For many days or even months; time appears to slow and energy no longer flows. A fog settles in. Everyone else around us seems to be living and moving unaffected. At such times, taking care of ourselves feels like, “just one more thing I am supposed to do” but have no motivation or energy for. Instead of self-care, strive for a slow rebalancing to life.
After a loved one’s death, there is so much taken away. Life can feel shattered and unfamiliar. While grieving; even our senses play cruel tricks on us; food doesn’t taste the same, the world appears colorless, normal sounds are too loud and even a touch feels dulled. Rebalancing while grieving is about gently adding back to our lives as we strive to keep moving forward. Small simple daily goals can make a huge impact.
When grieving, finding the new normal is difficult; it takes both time and energy. We cannot begin to rebuild our lives, parent our children, support our partners, work and manage it all without taking care of ourselves first. Creating and investing in life can feel like learning to ride a bicycle all over again; it may take some patience and practice. While you are moving forward slowly and gently life will rebalance. Your life is forever changed, yet as time continues beautiful moments can be found along the way.
This Post Written By:
Caryn Kondo, MSW – Therapy With Heart
8737 E. Via De Commercio, Suite 200
Scottsdale, Arizona 85258
Phone: (480) 888-5380
Fax: (480) 203-2881