It’s Complicated – The Dance of Avoidance
What is avoidance? Avoidance is the practice of staying away from difficult topics, situations, or people. Avoidance may look like only talking about superficial, or surface level topics, not talking or responding, not talking about emotions, missing events, or going out of our way to not run into someone. I believe everyone avoids some things […]
Really Being Seen: You Are Enough
Being a woman is hard. There’s an enormous amount of pressure from society to “be enough.” Even in our modern, “highly evolved” age, to be the perfect wife, mother, daughter, girlfriend, lover, homemaker, caretaker, cook, maid – and to pull it all off with just the right amount of sexy, while still maintaining a conservative […]
Are You Dateable?
On Saturday, my Facebook feed displayed a comical flowchart with an article from the Huffington Post entitled “Are you dateable?” The chart was kind of funny/silly and didn’t make a ton of sense, but it gave me a quick laugh. And then I noticed the reader’s comments on Facebook. Some readers reacted by writing about […]
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy & LGBTQ+ Relationships
All the therapists at Therapy With Heart are trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, and most are engaged in advanced training. Sue Johnson, PhD created the couple’s therapy model, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT is based on attachment theory and is the only couple’s therapy that is empirically validated. This is a different type of therapy […]
[ Marital] Bliss After Baby? It is Possible!
What is the only time that crying, screaming, sleep deprivation and dirty diapers are related to a life-changing milestone of joy? Answer: You guessed it – when you have a baby. Every parent knows that having a baby brings a myriad of emotions, ranging from the most extreme joy, pride and elation to complete exhaustion, […]
Therapy Outside of the Box
Who decided that a therapy hour is 50 minutes? What makes that the right amount of time to access deep emotional work and create change? The 50 minute therapy hour was originally created by Freud, who often didn’t actually adhere to it and is known to have looser boundaries than most therapists today would deem […]
I Want Couples Therapy but my Partner Doesn’t!
It is not unusual for one partner to feel the need to go see a couples therapist and the other to resist. I get it! My husband and I took the Hold Me Tight Couples Workshop a few years ago and I definitely found myself initially saying, “No, we are fine. We don’t need it.” […]
Men and Women: How Can We Connect?
At the end of our first day of the Couples Workshop, a gentleman made a comment that created a great dialogue with the group. He stated that men process things differently than women and at times that makes it challenging to connect emotionally with their partners. So true!! Both men and women need to acknowledge […]
Post Divorce Counseling
No one enters a relationship thinking they are going to get divorced or separated. Unfortunately, divorce does occur and can be earth shattering for all involved. As a therapist, I believe that most conflicts can be worked out, whether you are married or divorced. During times of stress it is important to find good healthy […]
Domestic Violence Focused Marital Treatment
The world would be a much better and safer place if we were all born with the knowledge of effective communication, conflict resolution skills and healthy boundaries! But, relationships don’t come with manuals and we are all different. We react differently, we come with different stories and beliefs on people, communication, relationships and life. This […]