Who is the right therapist for you?
I often say to potential clients, that it’s challenging enough to decide you want to see a therapist, but then navigating the process of finding the right therapist can be overwhelming. There are so many factors that go into finding your “right” therapist. Ultimately, this is going to be the person who can help you […]
Can Medication and Therapy Cure Depression?
There are two ways to explain to someone what depression is. One way is by using a definition. There are tons definitions by different associations that are concerned with depression. One of them for example, is the definition by the American Psychiatric Association that defines depression as “a common and serious medical illness that negatively […]
3 Pieces of Advice for Couples
In working in this field, I have been asked before what my #1 piece of advice for couples is. I’ve been thinking on that and I can narrow down to these three parts. And if I want my couples to get anything through their experience in therapy with me, I hope they at least leave […]
Communication Tips
Communication is essential in all relationships but can also be very intimidating because there is a risk of miscommunicating, feeling rejected, conflict, or being shut down/dismissed. Some of us may have even received messages that it is not ok, or not safe, to communicate with parents, family members, significant others. Communication is necessary to build […]
The Rules of Dating According to Rae
A lesson from the Dalai Lama: “Follow the 3 Rs: Respect for self, Respect for others and Responsibility for all your actions.” This sums up my feelings about the rules of dating. There are many published books in which others have enumerated dating rules and/or etiquette, including what to wear, what to say, when to […]
The Journey of Couple’s Therapy- Common Questions
I recently came across the blog on Huffington Post “Timing Is Everything When It Comes To Marriage Counseling” by Terry Gaspard, LICSW and began thinking about the common questions and myths I hear in couple’s counseling. These are questions that tend to stop people from entering therapy. All couples enter therapy for different reasons and with […]
The Waiting Game: How to Cope With It
Recently I experienced something that I call “the waiting game.” The waiting game is what I have labeled the experience of having to wait on either finding out or doing something that you feel is important. During this waiting period there are often unknowns, and, as a result, there is uncertainty. In my case, I […]
Technology – Is it a Gift or a Curse?
I was at dinner at a restaurant with my family a few weekends ago and noticed a few tables around us throughout our meal. There was one in particular that caught my attention. I noticed that the two people were on their phones THE WHOLE TIME! They looked up to order their food but then […]
Be Yourself, Maybe Even Work Towards Your “Best Self”
“Don’t change so people will like you, be yourself and the right people will love you.” Be Yourself I saw this quote on the wall of Therapy With Heart’s Facebook page and was inspired to write this blog post. As a therapist who specializes in relationships/dating, I don’t give my clients tips on “how to […]
It’s Complicated – The Dance of Avoidance
What is avoidance? Avoidance is the practice of staying away from difficult topics, situations, or people. Avoidance may look like only talking about superficial, or surface level topics, not talking or responding, not talking about emotions, missing events, or going out of our way to not run into someone. I believe everyone avoids some things […]
