Self-Care and Why It’s Important
I feel like I’ve been focusing a lot on self-care for my clients lately. It seems that we live in a world that never stops and taking care of ourselves is coming in as a last priority. I’m guilty of this! I tend to put everyone’s needs before my own; my kids, my family, my […]
What Your Therapist Wants You to Know
As a therapist, I know entering therapy can be anxiety producing for many clients. Clients often report that they’re not sure what they’re supposed to say or do at the beginning of therapy. We want to take the mystery out of therapy because this should be a safe space for you to enter into. Be Honest […]
Be Empathetic Instead of Placing Blame
In recent months there have been horrible tragedies. There have been terrorist attacks, natural disasters, and accidents involving children. The latest tragedy was the toddler attacked and killed by an alligator in Florida. This incident occurred at a family-friendly resort and no one thought this would happen. I initially learned of this tragedy on Facebook. […]
Technology – Is it a Gift or a Curse?
I was at dinner at a restaurant with my family a few weekends ago and noticed a few tables around us throughout our meal. There was one in particular that caught my attention. I noticed that the two people were on their phones THE WHOLE TIME! They looked up to order their food but then […]
#LoveUp: A Movement to Spread Love and Compassion
I love listening to John Jay and Rich on iHeart Radio. A #LoveUp movement was started when John Jay and Kurt Warner were texting. Kurt tried to text “Love it” but the phone autocorrected to “Love up”. The radio team took this slogan and ran with it as a way to pay it forward and […]
Be Yourself, Maybe Even Work Towards Your “Best Self”
“Don’t change so people will like you, be yourself and the right people will love you.” Be Yourself I saw this quote on the wall of Therapy With Heart’s Facebook page and was inspired to write this blog post. As a therapist who specializes in relationships/dating, I don’t give my clients tips on “how to […]
Follow Up to “Are you Dateable?”: The Dateability Scale
Last month I wrote a blog entry entitled “Are You Dateable?”. After posting this, a few readers responded by saying (not verbatim, but close!), “I know I’m not open right now to many aspects of dating that you listed. Does that mean I’m not dateable? Should I not date if I know I’m not fully […]
Let’s Talk About the Dreaded ‘F’ Word… FEELINGS!
It’s easy to talk about positive feelings but it’s uncomfortable to discuss all the negative feelings. We live in a “pack it away” society. From a young age, most of us are taught to “get over it”, “pull yourself up”, and emotions are dismissed, or “packed away”. I can think of specific instances in my childhood […]
Validation: Helping Your Friends, Family and Loved Ones
As a therapist, I frequently get asked, “What can I do to help my partner/child/family member/friend when they are struggling?” The client usually tells me that they offer solutions, like say “I’m sorry”, give advice, etc. and that nothing helps. I encourage clients to validate this other person. I receive a lot of feedback from […]
Are You Dateable?
On Saturday, my Facebook feed displayed a comical flowchart with an article from the Huffington Post entitled “Are you dateable?” The chart was kind of funny/silly and didn’t make a ton of sense, but it gave me a quick laugh. And then I noticed the reader’s comments on Facebook. Some readers reacted by writing about […]