Hear Me Out, Scheduling Sex Can Be Great And Here’s Why

When there is a lull in the intimacy department what I hear most often from couples if I suggest scheduling sex is they do not want to do it. When people think of scheduling sex, I think the first words that come to mind include boring, lame, and not exciting. We receive so many messages […]

Communication & Sex: Before, During & After

Talking about sex, in movies and television it never seems to happen where couples talk before, during, or after engaging in sexual activities. Even during a first time hook up, the partners on screen seem to already know exactly what to do and give their partner a fantastic orgasm in record time.  However, this depiction […]

Sex ≠ Intercourse, It Is So Much More!

What is sex to you?  There are many ideas that come to mind when one hears the word sex. Most people may think of intercourse. However, this idea that sex equals intercourse may not fit for everyone and does not encompass all that sex can be. Now for some experiences, sex can absolutely include intercourse […]

Infertility…Increasing Awareness and Sensitivity

On my birthday, I reflect on my life so far. I remembered my first life choice point with my husband when we were in our late 20s, early 30’s. I was very driven and ambitious. We had done everything we needed to do in our minds to be “ready” to have children.  As the time […]

Covid…Politics…Nah, Let’s Talk About Sex Instead!

Our Therapy With Heart team had the opportunity to learn from Sex Therapist, Jennifer Lucas Brown in October and it just inspired me to continue to open up the dialogue around what, for many, is an uncomfortable topic to discuss. Sex and intimacy is such an important part of our relationships. Research shows that although sex […]

Toxic Shame

It had been over a year since I last saw them. Former clients with sex addictions. I looked at their faces- both very familiar and the same, yet undeniably different. “You both seem to have a… well… a lightness to you.” I motioned to their faces, struggling to find words to adequately describe the difference […]

The Power of Physical Touch

I have a soul connection with my 10-year-old son, Zachary. When I was little, instead of naming my Ken doll (of Ken and Barbie) “Ken” I always said “Zachary”. I always knew I wanted to name my son, Zachary. Then in 2007, here comes this sweet, smiling, happy baby boy. Of his 10 years, that […]

Who is the right therapist for you?

I often say to potential clients, that it’s challenging enough to decide you want to see a therapist, but then navigating the process of finding the right therapist can be overwhelming. There are so many factors that go into finding your “right” therapist. Ultimately, this is going to be the person who can help you […]

“Come As You Are” Book Highlights By Me

therapy with heart book highlights sexual desire

There are so many meaningful books and resources out there, it’s hard to keep up!  Whether you want to read about relationships, business, health, finances or any other topic the books to read are endless. I just finished a book about sexual desire, sexual responsiveness, and overall attitude about sex. As a relationship center, intimacy and […]

Really Being Seen: You Are Enough

you are enough

Being a woman is hard. There’s an enormous amount of pressure from society to “be enough.” Even in our modern, “highly evolved” age, to be the perfect wife, mother, daughter, girlfriend, lover, homemaker, caretaker, cook, maid – and to pull it all off with just the right amount of sexy, while still maintaining a conservative […]