The Journey of Couple’s Therapy- Common Questions

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I recently came across the blog on Huffington Post “Timing Is Everything When It Comes To Marriage Counseling” by Terry Gaspard, LICSW and began thinking about the common questions and myths I hear in couple’s counseling. These are questions that tend to stop people from entering therapy. All couples enter therapy for different reasons and with […]

What Your Therapist Wants You to Know

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As a therapist, I know entering therapy can be anxiety producing for many clients. Clients often report that they’re not sure what they’re supposed to say or do at the beginning of therapy. We want to take the mystery out of therapy because this should be a safe space for you to enter into. Be Honest […]

Family Fun Activities Everyone Can Enjoy!

A common statement in my house on days off is “What do you want to do today?” When my family doesn’t have a clear plan for what the day is going to look like, there’s a stronger possibility that my children will argue and (purposely) annoy each other. I even find myself getting bored and […]

The Waiting Game: How to Cope With It

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Recently I experienced something that I call “the waiting game.” The waiting game is what I have labeled the experience of having to wait on either finding out or doing something that you feel is important. During this waiting period there are often unknowns, and, as a result, there is uncertainty. In my case, I […]

Be Yourself, Maybe Even Work Towards Your “Best Self”

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“Don’t change so people will like you, be yourself and the right people will love you.” Be Yourself I saw this quote on the wall of Therapy With Heart’s Facebook page and was inspired to write this blog post. As a therapist who specializes in relationships/dating, I don’t give my clients tips on “how to […]

It’s Complicated – The Dance of Avoidance

What is avoidance? Avoidance is the practice of staying away from difficult topics, situations, or people. Avoidance may look like only talking about superficial, or surface level topics, not talking or responding, not talking about emotions, missing events, or going out of our way to not run into someone. I believe everyone avoids some things […]

Really Being Seen: You Are Enough

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Being a woman is hard. There’s an enormous amount of pressure from society to “be enough.” Even in our modern, “highly evolved” age, to be the perfect wife, mother, daughter, girlfriend, lover, homemaker, caretaker, cook, maid – and to pull it all off with just the right amount of sexy, while still maintaining a conservative […]

Follow Up to “Are you Dateable?”: The Dateability Scale

Last month I wrote a blog entry entitled “Are You Dateable?”. After posting this, a few readers responded by saying (not verbatim, but close!), “I know I’m not open right now to many aspects of dating that you listed. Does that mean I’m not dateable? Should I not date if I know I’m not fully […]

Validation: Helping Your Friends, Family and Loved Ones

As a therapist, I frequently get asked, “What can I do to help my partner/child/family member/friend when they are struggling?” The client usually tells me that they offer solutions, like say “I’m sorry”, give advice, etc. and that nothing helps. I encourage clients to validate this other person. I receive a lot of feedback from […]

Are You Dateable?

On Saturday, my Facebook feed displayed a comical flowchart with an article from the Huffington Post entitled “Are you dateable?” The chart was kind of funny/silly and didn’t make a ton of sense, but it gave me a quick laugh. And then I noticed the reader’s comments on Facebook. Some readers reacted by writing about […]