As both a mother and a therapist, I have the innate instinct to always want to help others. Help them communicate. Help them solve their problems. Help them through life’s obstacles. Help them better their relationship with their spouse and/or family. Over time, I realized that problem solving was not always the best road to take. Sometimes, when a loved one...
Read MoreI’m writing this the day of my 6th marathon, while I still feel alive! I have the rush and celebration of my body, my determination, and probably a little of my “crazy”! I’m an endurance runner. I actually don’t talk about it much for multiple reasons. One, is that I recognize it can appear extreme to some and I’m a...
Read MoreI recently came across this article, What Death Taught Me, in The Huffington Post. In this article, the author, Katie Dreyer, describes her experience of dealing with her mother’s battle with cancer and the death of her mother. She describes what she learned through these experiences and I began to reflect on my own experiences with death. I have experienced...
Read MoreWhat is the only time that crying, screaming, sleep deprivation and dirty diapers are related to a life-changing milestone of joy? Answer: You guessed it - when you have a baby. Every parent knows that having a baby brings a myriad of emotions, ranging from the most extreme joy, pride and elation to complete exhaustion, frustration and worry. It’s no...
Read MoreNot a big fan…this might be a little surprising since people often think that therapists are more calm and grounded. Not this one! I’m going to be vulnerable here and share that I am very balanced and centered in therapy, but not always in my own life. I am writing this for you to know you aren’t alone. Let’s manage...
Read MoreAlthough most therapists will tell you that you are not alone when you share that you and your partner have not had sex in years, it doesn’t always ease the pain it causes the two of you. It’s comforting to know that sexless marriages are common but most couples come to me asking “what do we do?” or “how do...
Read MoreWho decided that a therapy hour is 50 minutes? What makes that the right amount of time to access deep emotional work and create change? The 50 minute therapy hour was originally created by Freud, who often didn't actually adhere to it and is known to have looser boundaries than most therapists today would deem ethical. There are a few...
Read MoreGrief is all around us. Although we can't live our lives in fear anticipating the loss of our loved ones, many people in our culture at times choose to live in denial of death/dying. And then when close friends/family experience loss, we don't know what to do. Grief is a normal response to loss but it can feel terribly lonely...
Read MoreI was thinking about how much I love the holidays but also the pressure and stress involved too. There are a lot of "shoulds" over the holidays...attending parties, buying gifts, sending holiday cards, some family members encouraging you to eat or drink more than you want to, and the list goes on. In addition, there are the dynamics with family...
Read MoreWhether it's the death of a loved one or loss in the form of change in our life (divorce, move, job changes...), all of us will endure grief and loss in our lifetime. How we experience the loss is unique. We need people around us who will accept our ways of grieving. Some need to express anger, others have a...
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