As a therapist, I know entering therapy can be anxiety producing for many clients. Clients often report that they're not sure what they're supposed to say or do at the beginning of therapy. We want to take the mystery out of therapy because this should be a safe space for you to enter into. Be Honest With Your Therapist Therapists have...
Read MoreA common statement in my house on days off is “What do you want to do today?” When my family doesn’t have a clear plan for what the day is going to look like, there’s a stronger possibility that my children will argue and (purposely) annoy each other. I even find myself getting bored and grumpy after too much unstructured...
Read MoreRecently I experienced something that I call “the waiting game.” The waiting game is what I have labeled the experience of having to wait on either finding out or doing something that you feel is important. During this waiting period there are often unknowns, and, as a result, there is uncertainty. In my case, I was waiting on test results...
Read MoreIn recent months there have been horrible tragedies. There have been terrorist attacks, natural disasters, and accidents involving children. The latest tragedy was the toddler attacked and killed by an alligator in Florida. This incident occurred at a family-friendly resort and no one thought this would happen. I initially learned of this tragedy on Facebook. Pretty soon after the news...
Read MoreI was at dinner at a restaurant with my family a few weekends ago and noticed a few tables around us throughout our meal. There was one in particular that caught my attention. I noticed that the two people were on their phones THE WHOLE TIME! They looked up to order their food but then stayed glued to their phones...
Read MoreI love listening to John Jay and Rich on iHeart Radio. A #LoveUp movement was started when John Jay and Kurt Warner were texting. Kurt tried to text “Love it” but the phone autocorrected to “Love up”. The radio team took this slogan and ran with it as a way to pay it forward and show compassion. This movement has...
Read More“Don’t change so people will like you, be yourself and the right people will love you.” Be Yourself I saw this quote on the wall of Therapy With Heart’s Facebook page and was inspired to write this blog post. As a therapist who specializes in relationships/dating, I don't give my clients tips on “how to get the guy (or girl)”...
Read MoreWhat is avoidance? Avoidance is the practice of staying away from difficult topics, situations, or people. Avoidance may look like only talking about superficial, or surface level topics, not talking or responding, not talking about emotions, missing events, or going out of our way to not run into someone. I believe everyone avoids some things in life. I used to...
Read MoreBeing a woman is hard. There's an enormous amount of pressure from society to "be enough." Even in our modern, “highly evolved” age, to be the perfect wife, mother, daughter, girlfriend, lover, homemaker, caretaker, cook, maid – and to pull it all off with just the right amount of sexy, while still maintaining a conservative image. Yikes. Research has shown...
Read MoreLast month I wrote a blog entry entitled “Are You Dateable?”. After posting this, a few readers responded by saying (not verbatim, but close!), “I know I’m not open right now to many aspects of dating that you listed. Does that mean I’m not dateable? Should I not date if I know I’m not fully open?” I felt this was...
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