Although most therapists will tell you that you are not alone when you share that you and your partner have not had sex in years, it doesn’t always ease the pain it causes the two of you. It’s comforting to know that sexless marriages are common but most couples come to me asking “what do we do?” or “how do...
Read MoreWho decided that a therapy hour is 50 minutes? What makes that the right amount of time to access deep emotional work and create change? The 50 minute therapy hour was originally created by Freud, who often didn't actually adhere to it and is known to have looser boundaries than most therapists today would deem ethical. There are a few...
Read MoreGrief is all around us. Although we can't live our lives in fear anticipating the loss of our loved ones, many people in our culture at times choose to live in denial of death/dying. And then when close friends/family experience loss, we don't know what to do. Grief is a normal response to loss but it can feel terribly lonely...
Read MoreI was thinking about how much I love the holidays but also the pressure and stress involved too. There are a lot of "shoulds" over the holidays...attending parties, buying gifts, sending holiday cards, some family members encouraging you to eat or drink more than you want to, and the list goes on. In addition, there are the dynamics with family...
Read MoreWhether it's the death of a loved one or loss in the form of change in our life (divorce, move, job changes...), all of us will endure grief and loss in our lifetime. How we experience the loss is unique. We need people around us who will accept our ways of grieving. Some need to express anger, others have a...
Read MoreI was working with an individual client recently in an EMDR session focusing on negative beliefs about herself. She labeled these “the uns” and I asked her if I could borrow that term for this blog. I loved that she called her thoughts “the uns” and thought that so many of us can relate to this. Many of us have...
Read MoreThe best way to find out the power of sleep is to be sleep deprived! If you are one of the many who struggle with sleeping, falling asleep or staying asleep you are not alone. More than 40 million Americans suffer from chronic, long term sleep disorders, and an additional 20 million report sleeping problems occasionally, according to the National...
Read MoreI recently took a trip with my kiddos to visit their great grandparents in Tennessee. We traveled to a small town, a stereotypical small country town where everyone knows everyone and life is really simple. I had a lot of time for mindfulness sitting on the porch in front of their home. During this time, I engaged in mindful observation,...
Read MoreI hope 2015 has been a strong year for you. Therapy with Heart launched this blog series at the beginning of the year to be a resource for you; to keep you updated on upcoming events, services, and quality information. One area I'm personally embracing is the concept of self-compassion. Most of us are terribly critical of ourselves, and our internal self-talk...
Read MoreI was listening to my nine year old daughter and her friend talking about the difference between their two 3rd grade classes. They were comparing who has to work harder and which one of them has the "tougher" teacher. This comparison conversation made me think about the tendency to assume that our struggles are "harder" than others. Ash Beckham, a...
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