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Therapist Blog

Be Empathetic Instead of Placing Blame

Grief and Loss , Self Care

In recent months there have been horrible tragedies. There have been terrorist attacks, natural disasters, and accidents involving children. The latest tragedy was the toddler attacked and killed by an alligator in Florida. This incident occurred at a family-friendly resort and no one thought this would happen. I initially learned of this tragedy on Facebook. Pretty soon after the news...

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Be Yourself, Maybe Even Work Towards Your “Best Self”

Counseling Services , Couples Counseling , Self Care

“Don’t change so people will like you, be yourself and the right people will love you.” Be Yourself I saw this quote on the wall of Therapy With Heart’s Facebook page and was inspired to write this blog post. As a therapist who specializes in relationships/dating, I don't give my clients tips on “how to get the guy (or girl)”...

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It’s Complicated – The Dance of Avoidance

Counseling Services , Couples Counseling

What is avoidance? Avoidance is the practice of staying away from difficult topics, situations, or people. Avoidance may look like only talking about superficial, or surface level topics, not talking or responding, not talking about emotions, missing events, or going out of our way to not run into someone. I believe everyone avoids some things in life. I used to...

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Really Being Seen: You Are Enough

Counseling Services , Couples Counseling , Sex Therapy

Being a woman is hard. There's an enormous amount of pressure from society to "be enough." Even in our modern, “highly evolved” age, to be the perfect wife, mother, daughter, girlfriend, lover, homemaker, caretaker, cook, maid – and to pull it all off with just the right amount of sexy, while still maintaining a conservative image. Yikes. Research has shown...

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