I was working with an individual client recently in an EMDR session focusing on negative beliefs about herself. She labeled these “the uns” and I asked her if I could borrow that term for this blog. I loved that she called her thoughts “the uns” and thought that so many of us can relate to this. Many of us have...
Read MoreThe best way to find out the power of sleep is to be sleep deprived! If you are one of the many who struggle with sleeping, falling asleep or staying asleep you are not alone. More than 40 million Americans suffer from chronic, long term sleep disorders, and an additional 20 million report sleeping problems occasionally, according to the National...
Read MoreI recently took a trip with my kiddos to visit their great grandparents in Tennessee. We traveled to a small town, a stereotypical small country town where everyone knows everyone and life is really simple. I had a lot of time for mindfulness sitting on the porch in front of their home. During this time, I engaged in mindful observation,...
Read MoreI hope 2015 has been a strong year for you. Therapy with Heart launched this blog series at the beginning of the year to be a resource for you; to keep you updated on upcoming events, services, and quality information. One area I'm personally embracing is the concept of self-compassion. Most of us are terribly critical of ourselves, and our internal self-talk...
Read MoreI was listening to my nine year old daughter and her friend talking about the difference between their two 3rd grade classes. They were comparing who has to work harder and which one of them has the "tougher" teacher. This comparison conversation made me think about the tendency to assume that our struggles are "harder" than others. Ash Beckham, a...
Read MoreI was on a trail run with my friend last weekend discussing how this time of year is our absolute favorite. The shorter days, cool mornings and nights, and our desert plants and greenery from the monsoons seem to bring joy and gratitude. With the new fall season I also found myself reflecting on the various questions and possibilities in my life...
Read MoreI have a confession...I enjoy watching The Bachelor for pure entertainment. Although the quite ridiculous concept of one attractive man dating twenty-five beautiful women is fun to watch, there are actually some intense relationship dynamics that I can't help but analyze! One thing I've noticed this season is the use of "I'm just being honest" as a way to avoid,...
Read MoreThis summer has been hotter than hot in Phoenix and a lot of people are getting out of the heat and traveling to various places across the world. As I encourage and support everyone else and their expeditions, I have to consider what is my own hesitation to claim time away. I can give you a dozen different reasons, including...
Read MoreI was thinking out loud with my daughter, who is almost 10 years old about what I was going to write about this month and she said, "why don't you tell people when they should go to therapy?" I asked her to share her thoughts and she responded with "when someone is really upset and needs a place to go...
Read MoreWhat are the messages you received growing up about money? Do any of the following resonate with you? It wasn’t discussed, but we always had plenty. We never had enough money and there was fear and scarcity around finances in general (ie. Parents fighting about money, statements like “we can’t afford it”.) You were told that you needed to make...
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